Nokhanyiso Ntiyantiya-Zwakala is the founder of the inspirational Marriage group called Tshatile Tshatile Akho Kubuyamva. Her mission is to minimize the high rate of divorces, stop women & children abuse and to uplift the living standards of disadvantaged women through praying, teaching, advising and support each other. She want this group to be the best courageous, most respected and leading marriage group that identifies solutions to the most common problems and happiness in marriage.
She used Facebook as a platform to engage with interested women with a common goal to embark on this vision. She said: We are women that wakes up every morning faced with millions of decisions and despite what the world is telling us but we choose to make the right one. I firmly believe that how people live, how they think, and how they act and react to life's situations can be positively influenced. I hope that this Tshatile Women’s Forum can provide that and will challenge your thinking, it will help you grow, develop, succeed, smile and know How to Take Charge of Your Life and Be Happy with What You Have Gotten.
I was born in Mahlubini Location in a small village called Tsomo in Eastern Cape by the late Mr Mhleli and Mrs Nolungile Ntiyantiya. I am the third born in five girls that were raised by the unemployed widow who taught us that “After every night there’s a bright shining day”.
She is committed to mentor, empower and develop rural- born people to explore and pursue their dreams and talents, enhance their quality of life, develop their self – esteem and self- admiration and to find permanent and sustainable solutions to their problems as well as their children as they growing up from rural areas.
After many successful years of marriage, I noticed that you had to work hard in order to make your marriage work. Most of people think that marriage is just to live life together and then everything would be perfect. Jonga a perfect marriage is impossible but an amazing marriage is completely do-able vah, ndiyazi apha kum. As time goes on, we had more bad days than good days and I thought it would be over, jonga it’s not easy to achieve harmony in marriage and if you are looking for that, you will be disappointed mama.
- Ha ha ha ha, hayi ninani andihleki kodwa emandinibalisele kona the bad days zaye zikhula ukodlula the good days , yhuuu ndiphume kulomtshato , hayi maarn ndiyamthanda lobhuti njena naye uyandithanda . zabethabethana iingqondo , zaqhathana iintliziyo , we tried to fix things on our own but we didn’t know where to start! Up until ndabuyisela umtshato kumnikazi wawo ongu Thixo , uzungacinguba uzothetha noThixo namhlanje kusasa sithi konke kulungile . Zindithwaxile Kanye ngelixesha ndithi Taru!!! Taru !!! Nkosi. Hayini mazibethunana u Khanyisto utshate ne very good manipulator ntoleyo eyayinciphisa iThula Session kwam ngoba uphandlwa ngoku uvuthelwe , ulibale noba ubuphandliwe , siyathandana njena . Wandinceda uThixo wandilungiselela umtshato wam , wandinika enye icharacter to be a drama queen of my marriage ndaziva ndingenathula ndibukele imingcelele to court eyoqhawula imitshato noko makaye ikhona into eyenziwe ngabafazi!!! That is when I created this platform yoba khe sichebane iinduma apho SAKHA UMFAZI!!! Sisethulana imithwalo ngakumbi ngomthandazo, sithandana, sihloniphane, sikhuthazana siseluthandweni hayi ngamagama arhabaxa nalumezayo,asicalulani apha ngenkoonzo , nangenkolo zethu, singacalulani ngobutyebi nantlupheko, singacalulani ngabuhle nakungxoliswa, isingacalulani ngakuphila nangokugula, asicalulani ngesinxibo sethu .
- Things began to improve after we BOTH committed to making it work. Jonga akungeni Moya uThixo uvale vingci , we are more than happy , when I think about the sadness and happiness we share, the things he says and do to show how much he loves and care, I can't help myself feeling special and lucky and I am so proud to have him in my life. I appreciate everything about us living and being together.
- To those ups and downs, my life is incomplete without him and I can't imagine my life without him
- God grant us more years and bind us with thy love. Since he’s beside me, I have no reason to run away from the troubles that comes on our way , undive kakuhle I do not claim to be the expert/ perfect but what I’m saying is we are continuously praying , I am learning and sharing with you kwaye lendlela iyahambeka .
- We believe God intended us to enjoy our marriages with the right knowledge and insight, we can all experience true joy and satisfaction in our marriages as the book of Genesis 2vs19-23 Then God said it is not good for a man to be alone, Then ke igqithe ithi "I (God) will make him a helper suitable for him.. tsi!!! Nkosi yam. Xa ezivuka ebuthongweni nanku umfazi"ecaleni kwakhe wathi "#Eli_lithambo_lamathambo_am, #yinyama_yasenyameni_yam, kothi ukubizwa kwayo ngu #Mfazi"
- When God gave me this vision on how to start I hesitantly accepted with a fear of failure but the story of my Role Model Dorkas from the book of Acts 9 verse 36 , you Tshatile members and my husband helped me to embark on this vision ingakumbi nina bomama andiyonto ngaphandle kwenu kungoko ndisithi kuni ndiswele imilomo eliwaka ukunibulela kungoko ndicela each and every woman to own u Tshatile , oh mostly I thank God Who guided me and gave me courage ukumelana ne behaviour zabantu abahlukeneyo. Today, the mission has spread through 8 provinces , today we are trendsetters , today we host 5 events per year ,today we have +-500 registered active members , today we have +-2420 members and through God’s grace, has connected with an incredible followers of over a million.
- One of the goals is to simply make being “happy healthy forever couples” an exciting modern makotiz and most importantly achievable journey that bring fun, motivation, and hope to marriages, successful events and to those desiring to be married mabanqwene ngokubona mna nawe .